YES, there are people who find cultural appropriation and the use of slurs “ok” with them.
Does that mean it’s “ok” to do it to EVERYONE, even if they might be personally offended by it?
Also it is very important to realize that your irl friends saying this shit is ok may be out of a desire to not start drama and get into arguments. I fucking detest when straight people say faggot but I have a few straight friends who do and it is just not worth the shit to tell them to stop.
I had to deal with this hipster white girl who kept saying nigga and making racist jokes a couple months ago. It was just four of us hanging out and the first time I ever met her. Imagine that as a first impression. I really didn’t want to be the one to say something so I just took some tequila to the head instead LOL. Sometimes we just don’t have the energy to correct every damn person we meet. Correct yourself you tool.